Let Go, Or You Will Be Dragged

Many people spend their lives trying to control every aspect of their existence—from relationships to career outcomes and even their thoughts and emotions. But what if the need for control is just an illusion? In this post, we’ll explore a perspective that suggests there is no separate 'me' that needs to control everything, and how accepting things as they are can set us free and bring peace in life.

The Nature of Control

Control as a Mental Construct

Control is a concept that stems from the belief in a separate self that must manage or manipulate external and internal experiences. From the moment we believe we are an individual “me,” we need to (or instead feel we need to) control our circumstances to protect and preserve this self. But in reality, this sense of control is just a mental construct—an illusion created by the mind.

The Futility of Trying to Control Life

Life is inherently unpredictable, and the notion that we can fully control it is unrealistic. For instance, trying to control the outcome of a relationship or a job interview often leads to stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction because life rarely conforms to our expectations. The more we try to grasp control, the more we suffer when things don’t go according to plan.

Recognizing the Illusion of Control

Who Is Trying to Control?

From the non-dual perspective, we must ask: Who is trying to control? When we investigate this question, we realize there is no separate self—no “I”- that can control life. The notion of control arises from believing in a personal identity that must manage its surroundings. When this belief is seen through, the illusion of control dissolves, bringing a profound sense of liberation.

Life Unfolds on Its Own

In reality, life unfolds naturally and effortlessly. We don’t need to control every moment because life, in its infinite intelligence, takes care of itself. Just as the sun rises and falls without our intervention, the flow of life continues regardless of our attempts to control it. The recognition that life is self-managing brings a deep sense of peace and serenity.

The Freedom of Letting Go

Letting Go of the Need to Control

Letting go of control doesn’t mean becoming passive or indifferent; it means recognizing that life is beyond the mind's grasp. When we let go of the need to control, we align with the natural flow of existence. This alignment allows us to move through life quickly, trusting in each moment's unfolding.

The Liberation of Surrender

True surrender is not about giving up; it’s about realizing there is nothing to give up, as there was never anything to hold onto in the first place. Surrendering to life brings liberation from the constant tension and struggle of trying to control what cannot be controlled. In this surrender, there is peace, freedom, and a profound sense of trust in life's natural flow.

To summarize

The illusion of control is one of the most significant sources of suffering, but it is also one of the easiest to dismantle once we see it for what it is. Life cannot be controlled, but it doesn’t need to be. By letting go of this illusion, you open yourself to the natural flow of life and experience a more profound sense of ease and freedom. Soul Doctors offer guidance in uncovering this truth and finding liberation beyond the need for control.

With Love,

Soul Doctors ❤️